Why do guys insist on changing a girl once they are comfortable in the relationship? They fell in love with one girl, then all of a sudden, want to mold her into someone else. We all know that people don’t change and trying to make them do so is just a waste of time. So why do we try so hard to please that one person who is telling us that our lifestyle isn’t good enough for them?
We don’t like hearing negative things about ourselves and when someone points out our so called “flaws,” they make us feel like we need to recognize them as that. So, while we are apologizing and saying we will do better next time, we are secretly rolling our eyes and thinking, “Seriously? Are we really doing this again?”
We have always been told that if you love someone, you should love them for everything they are– flaws and all. He met you, liked you and fell in love for a reason — actually multiple reasons. So why is he trying to change you now?
He knew who and what you were before the relationship so he should know what he got himself into, right? After all, that is how you caught his eye. He should never ask you to change and you should never feel pressured to do so.
Do not mold for him. Do not let him push and bully you into changing.
If you were social person before the relationship, be social. If you were a flirt before the relationship, continue to be so but tone it down and make good judgments.
Do not conform for him. Do not change your lifestyle because he says it should be different. He should compliment your life, not hinder you from living. And what he doesn’t understand is that if he did accept the real you, you’d change without even knowing. Without him constantly on your back and pointing out your flaws, you’d probably think the world of him. You’d probably love him with all of your heart and you would probably want to be with him forever.
I’ve found that the most successful relationships are those where the couple accepts each other. They know each others past and do not judge. They can talk about their experiences and grow together because they feel comfortable knowing that they are truly loved for who and what they are.
I’d like to eventually find someone like that. Maybe if I do, my entire attitude on love and relationships will change. Everyone wants to be accepted and find someone who will love them for everything that they are — this includes all of the bad stuff too.
No one is perfect. You are who you are and that should be good enough for him. If he says it’s not, then tell him to find someone without a backbone. You are good enough as is and if he can’t accept that he’s an idiot.
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